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Nope, There’s No Death
My beloved mother had her spine
re-constructed on September 6. My sister and I spent twelve days
lurking about two different hospitals, advocating for Mom’s
treatment and care, watching that the meds were correct and on time,
and she received what she needed when she needed it.
Those of you who have hung out with
me know of my health emergency in 2002. My surgery outcome: a new
bionic heart valve, (which deflected that pesky death ray headed my
way), and a real problem with the smells and beeps that come with
hospitals.
I would not have hung out in two
Tacoma hospitals for just anyone, that’s for sure.
Now Mom’s back in her home, and
Sister and I are providing her with care all day, every day — the
day; meds, appointments, cajoling her into eating. All this is
happening 165 miles from my home, and I miss my bed.
The thing is, even though my personal
life is all akimbo, I’m still dry, I still have a bed, my kid’s
okay, my home is where I left it, the begonias are still blooming
outside the window of the room where I meet my clients.
I am overwhelmed with gratitude for
my blessings.
A hurricane. Another hurricane. Yet
ANOTHER hurricane. Sheesh.
More water. More destruction. More
lives changed forever.
If you are even a beeensee bit sensitive, here’s what is happening
to you. You’re having a pretty regular day, nothing too wrong or
right, and suddenly you are sobbing, crying uncontrollably. It’s not
you. It’s the waves of grief, anger, and fear, that are swooping
across our continent. Even if you’re just fine, you’re going to
hurt, too.
So when you burst into tears in the
shower or washing dishes, you don’t have to explain yourself. It
doesn’t have to make sense. Just express it, feel it and let it go.
Say a prayer for where ever that flood of emotion came from. Someone
could be in a situation where he or she does not have the luxury of
expressing what’s happening. Go ahead and do it for that person.
Send energy. Send good thoughts. Light a candle or a whole bank of
candles. Make financial contributions or volunteer. Remember that
there is big trouble in another community, but that doesn’t mean
that there are not still needs right where you live. Reach out and
help if you can. Accept help if you need it.
DEATH – the Extreme Makeover
My guides and I —- TeamRuby —- had
the pleasure of speaking at the Alice Street Spiritual Church –
which is always a good time. When I asked Geoffrey Knight if there
would be a theme for the evening, he suggested the concept “There is
No Death.”
Righty-O.
Here’s what Gilda, Silverah, Marco,
and Ari – the spirit guides of TeamRuby have to say about death:
Death is just an
extreme makeover.
When you die, you are the same, you
still like the same things, like say, Ritz Crackers —- you just look
different and a have a different place to go in the morning, if
there is a morning on the other side.
Silverah says:
You should no more fear death than fear a haircut. Death is about
the same trauma as a haircut. Sometimes it’s shocking, you walk by
the mirror and say “Ack! who is that?” Suddenly you don’t look like
yourself.
But sometimes maybe you try a new
cut, try a new color and you have to say, “Oh yes, I’m Looking Fine
today.”
That’s what death is about, an
extreme makeover.
Gilda says:
This doesn’t mean you should be looking for death. This doesn’t
mean you should put it on your things to do list for this week.
You have plenty to do here on this
plane, in these bodies.
Plenty of really good stuff to do.
There’s more fun here in a body
than there is out there.
People get all tangled up in the day to day messes that they have
for lives.
They get all tangled up in
questions like “do I have enough clean underwear? and Do I have
enough to eat?”
Ruby says:
Well, for us that’s kind of important…
Gilda laughs, okay, that was a bad
one…
Even when the bank balance is too
near to zero for comfort or even when the car won’t start, this is
the time to remember to laugh because you are in a body. Enjoy the
fact you’re in a body. You have a chance to feel things.. If you’re
human, you get to feel textures, softness, hot and cold. On really
hot days, you can say to yourself “Well, I know I’m in a body
today!” When the sweat is trickling down, you know you’re alive.
You don’t sweat once you die..
{from the group, “There’s no
menopause there?”}
You know you are alive. Even in times
of discomfort, you know you are alive if you are in a body. When you
get out of the body, you can watch and interact with the humans and
you can go places you were unable to get to as a human.
It’s nice to go traveling, no
problems at the airport, that kind of thing.
But you don’t get to taste the
berries, so you should be enjoying yourself more while you are here.
That’s my greatest advice to you.
Yes, have more fun, even on the bad
days.
Ruby interjects, “that’s not always
easy.”
Yes, I know, it takes concentration.
You think enlightenment comes easily
? !
No! You‘ve got to make some choices.
You’ve got to make some choices to have a good time even on the bad
days. |
